As some of you know and others have wondered, the boys do have members of their biological family living in the Philippines. It is probably one of the advantages and disadvantages in adopting older kids. They do remember, they do wonder about those left behind. I would imagine most adopted children and their families wonder about the family that remains.
From day one of meeting the boys we have talked about their family members and they share their thoughts and remembrances of those times and family.
This past week-end the island of Mindanao in the Philippines was struck by a typhoon. So many deaths and missing people. Our biggest question, one that will never be answered, is are any of their biological family still alive. We were given so little information but the little we have puts the family in the destruction path.
Lucas and Eli have not asked too many questions yet. The questions will start. One of the hardest things for Mike and I to get across to them is that we don't have all the answers. I have to admit not having the answers to this one huge question bothers me.
We knew that the boys have family and it was always a possibility that "someday" the boys might choose to return and look for family members and have some of their questions answered. Having the basic knowledge of where to start gave us some feeling of contribution in helping them to get their answers. Now I don't think this is going to be a possibility. This latest disaster has thrown us down another unexpected pathway to helping Lucas and Eli reconcile their lives in the Philippines.
This Christmas season please remember all the people that are suffering around the world and say a special prayer that somehow the portion of the boys' family that were still in the Philippines were able to survive and are safe, that someday they can meet two special guys who have a lot of memories of them and remember them every day.
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