You know when you are driving in the car by yourself and you don't turn on the radio and just have peaceful moments to THINK? Well this morning going to work was one of those slices of 15 minutes that probably save many parents' hold on sanity.
It occurred to me that a year ago in April we were taking parenting classes, waiting on the FBI clearances and hoping to schedule our home visits, all while buried underneath a mountain of paperwork. That led me to think about where and what the boys were doing a year ago.
They were still in Zamboanga, they didn't know about us and they were quickly becoming the older kids in the orphanage. The other thing was that they were united as two against the world. Stuck together as if by super glue, dependent on the other to watch their backs and to be the only constant in each others' world.
Last night Eli went outside to play by himself, Lucas went and got a book to look at in his room. Then Lucas went and rode his bike and Eli went and played ball in the yard.....so what you ask?.....well they did this separately. We are starting to see this a little more. The glue between them is still there just more of a rubber cement, they are stretching out and exploring their own interests and individuality. If we step back and watch and remember from back at the beginning what is evolving in their relationship is amazing.
They still have the bungee cord recoil and come back together but they are definitely stretching out to meet the world.
It occurred to me that a year ago in April we were taking parenting classes, waiting on the FBI clearances and hoping to schedule our home visits, all while buried underneath a mountain of paperwork. That led me to think about where and what the boys were doing a year ago.
They were still in Zamboanga, they didn't know about us and they were quickly becoming the older kids in the orphanage. The other thing was that they were united as two against the world. Stuck together as if by super glue, dependent on the other to watch their backs and to be the only constant in each others' world.
Last night Eli went outside to play by himself, Lucas went and got a book to look at in his room. Then Lucas went and rode his bike and Eli went and played ball in the yard.....so what you ask?.....well they did this separately. We are starting to see this a little more. The glue between them is still there just more of a rubber cement, they are stretching out and exploring their own interests and individuality. If we step back and watch and remember from back at the beginning what is evolving in their relationship is amazing.
They still have the bungee cord recoil and come back together but they are definitely stretching out to meet the world.
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